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Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
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Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
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Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
Contact Sonya Green
Sonya Green new articles
Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
Contact Sonya Green
Sonya Green new articles
Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
Contact Sonya Green
Sonya Green new articles
Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
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I awoke around midnight and slowly became aware of a gentle song
playing through the darkness. The girl next door was singing and softly
strumming a guitar. I couldn’t hear the words but the tone was hauntingly
beautiful. I closed my eyes and listened, feeling caressed and rocked like
a baby being lullabied.

A few minutes later, I heard a man’s angry voice swearing loudly at
someone on the street outside my home. His abusive noise drowned out
the singing and I found myself tensing and feeling annoyed and offended
by him. He sounded drunk and I anticipated his argument was heading
towards a fight. I tried to will him away. For a moment, I considered
walking out to the balcony and yelling at him to shut up or threatening to
call the police.

I felt indignant that he had imposed his rage on me when I had been in
such a peaceful, gentle place. Between his outbursts, I was able to shift
back into alignment with the singing girl. This happened a few times,
before I became aware that between these two people, I was emotionally
being pulled into two extremes. I pulled my awareness back and
observed myself. I was neutral, in the safety and comfort of my own bed. I
was in the middle of this interesting polarity of aggression and serenity.
As I shifted my focus from one to the other, I observed my body as it
responded and synchronized with these two opposing energies.

Neither of them had any awareness of me and I had no knowledge of
them, other than their sound. It was interesting to me to see how they
were able to manipulate both physical and emotional responses in me. It
was even more interesting, to see how my body reacted, and how many
judgements I made. I studied myself as I deliberately tuned in to each of
them a number of times. It was such a fantastic example of how our
thoughts and emotions are influenced or perhaps even dominated by our
choice of focus.

I have always tried to pay attention to my thoughts and I try to catch
destructive threads as soon as I can. I have also tried to maintain
communication with my emotions and my body. Since the diagnosis, I
have become even more protective of my body. I am currently having a
love affair with my body; with my life for that matter. I am constantly
watching what I think and feel, what I eat, how I move and breathe and
how I interact with others. I am also removing, redefining, changing,
increasing, pacing or embracing people, things and habits. In short, I am
doing my best to release myself from anything destructive or toxic.

“Choice of Focus” has become a law for me to live by. The little example
of me lying on the bed and switching focus between two extremes
illustrates how easily we can be taken away from ourselves. It made me
realize how often we take on other peoples stuff and run it through our
own system. In my own life there is good and bad; on the world stage and
throughout history that is a consistent. Highs and lows, dark and light, life
and death – everything is operating within a range of positive and
negative. So much of our experience is a matter of choice of focus.

Many of us understand this law and try to live by it. We have the power to
choose our thoughts, emotions and behaviours; we have the ability to
recreate our lives. But, are we too often out of our own bodies and
involved in other people’s lives; missing most of our own? Do we honestly
believe that we have mastered ourselves so completely that we are
capable of taking on authority over others? Are we really so invincible
that we can run other people’s emotions through our own system? Or,
are we just unaware of how open and receptive we are to the influence of
others?

We all have our own emotional worlds to explore and balance and this is
never more important than when we are fighting disease. I am no longer
looking at cancer as a disease. In fact, I am looking at disease as a
symptom. It’s not about catching a disease which attacks the body. It is
about the body being too weak or so overloaded that it is unable to cope
with too little of what it needs and too much of what does it harm. Toxins
and pollutants accumulate, we don’t get enough oxygen or sunlight, we
are over stressed and over tired, we lack nutrients and eat and drink
lifeless matter, we drug ourselves, we maintain unhappiness and treat
ourselves with disrespect and abuse. These things tend to be consistent
and it usually takes years before the body finally reaches a ponit of being
unable to cope. We act like disease just appears unexpectedly and
unfairly. Unbelievably, we expect it to be cut out or drugged away with
every intention of carrying on as before. Disease is not a thing; it is the
body in a state of crisis!

Healing is not just a matter of destroying a symptom. Long term health
means serious long term changes to lifestyle habits. The body must be
detoxed and rejuvenated. It needs proper nutrition, fresh air and clean
water. Stress and fear needs to be controlled and purpose, fulfilment and
enjoyment needs to be enhanced. We do get to choose how to treat our
own bodies and the same is true for our thoughts and emotions.

It is not so easy to see how other people or external events are healing
or harming us, but it is certainly worth giving it some attention. We don’t
have control over what goes on around us, but we do have a choice in
how we perceive it. We are capable of absorbing the energies of others
and we are very often bled of our own energies. No one is here to
experience or control another’s life and yet far too many of us are
unconsciously trying to do just that.

We do need to make good choices and practical changes when it comes
to our health and well being. But, just as importantly, I believe that we
must consciously pull back our energy and focus more on our own
realities. We need to be present in our own lives and less seduced by the
dramas of others. We need to be a lot more discerning about what
emotions we absorb. We have one life – our own life. Hopefully, we will
influence others in a positive way, but let’s not forget that they have their
own journey as well, and it is never up to us to live it for them. We can
not relieve someone of their feelings by taking them into our own bodies.
But, we sure can destroy ourselves by doing so.

It’s so easy to think that our compassion, caring and good advice is
about what nice people we are. Empathy is about connecting and sharing
someone else’s pain and we believe that the more empathetic that we
are, the better we are as people. To a very small degree this is true, but
to be brutally honest with ourselves, we might well uncover that our
empathy is more often a control issue. We can care and support or listen
and help others and we should. Very often though, we are assuming
responsibility and demanding that things be right – our measure of right.
We do want people to think like us, be like us and feel like us; we insist
that others do things our way. We also want to be liked and admired, we
love to prove ourselves right. We also secretly feel a little superior if we
take charge and produce a good outcome.

Empathy becomes a very big problem when we habitually find ourselves
worried, anxious, exhausted or frustrated by being too involved and too
responsible for other people. Thinking that we are the only ones who
care or that they can’t deal with the things we can, or we feel we must be
available because they love us. Isn’t it really true that we are simply
bleeding out to prove we care? Perhaps making ourselves indispensable
or just approval seeking?

And who are we to insist that others must never fail, make mistakes or do
things the hard way? It’s a bit egotistical don’t you think? We are not the
parents of the world and we are no ones God. Assist – don’t insist!

Disease or illness is often a matter of being totally burned out. One of the
main reasons people become so burned out is that they are habitually
taking on the pains of others and running those issues through their own
system. Everyone has a right to make their own decisions – right or
wrong. We must allow others their freedoms. Offer advice, help or allow
them to talk, but don’t take over, don’t repeat the same advice over and
over and stop cleaning up their mess! Stop being an emotional waste
dump for others.

We all learn through our mistakes, we grow from our pain and failure. Let’
s allow others to have their experience.

Copyright Sonya Green 2008
 www.reinventingmyself.com
Reinventing Myself - Sonya Green

From the Cancer Diary - Sonya Green
Breast cancer, the mind and emotions.
Healing is not just a matter of destroying a symptom. Long term health means serious
long term changes to lifestyle habits. Stress and fear needs to be controlled and purpose,
fulfilment and enjoyment needs to be enhanced.
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